Social Benefits of Being Still Before GOD

Non-joiners—those who prefer solitude and avoid crowds and love being still and alone before God—cultivate a healthy social life (in fact, sometimes a healthier social life) while maintaining their natural inclination for quietude and solitude. In professional settings, where interactions with co-workers and subordinates are necessary, being still before God helps us understand and develop effective communication strategies, setting boundaries, and embracing quality over quantity in relationships can lead to more meaningful and productive connections.

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Understanding One’s Social Needs

Non-joiners also connect socially, but in cautious ways. And this is appreciated more as you spend times alone with God. First, non-joiners must acknowledge their personal social preferences. They may not enjoy large gatherings or casual small talk, but that doesn’t mean they must disconnect completely. Understanding that socializing is not about constant interaction but forming meaningful connections which helps shift perspectives. They engage in conversations that are casual, non-commital and yet purposeful.

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Building Strong One-on-One Relationships

Since non-joiners often thrive in quiet, focused environments, one-on-one interactions become their strength. They like a casual talk over a cup of coffee with an individual. Rather than mingling in group settings, they can foster deep relationships through personal conversations. Whether it’s a direct report, a colleague, or even a superior, scheduling individual discussions allows them to engage meaningfully without overwhelming social pressure. These interactions help create trust, understanding, and rapport, making social engagements more productive rather than draining.

Effective Communication in the Workplace

Relating with co-workers and handling subordinates requires clear and effective communication. Non-joiners can ensure they convey their thoughts concisely, either through written communication or structured verbal interactions. Believe it or not, still moments with God help develop this skill. His strong presence can supply everything you need. Moreover, utilizing emails, scheduled meetings, or brief discussions can help maintain professional relationships without requiring excessive social involvement. God's presence is powerful even in emails--or anywhere on the internet. 

In leadership roles, non-joiners must ensure that their reserved nature does not lead to misunderstandings or perceived aloofness. Transparent leadership, where expectations are clearly communicated, along with occasional check-ins, can help subordinates feel supported while allowing their leader to maintain personal space. Genuine effective leadership can come only when you're familiar with the leadership of the Shepherd in your life.

Creating a Structured Social Approach

Instead of engaging in rigid socialization, non-joiners can implement structured opportunities to lightly interact with others. Limit the scope of discussion. If you cannot do this, limit your exposure. Participating in professional discussions, attending relevant meetings, or organizing focused work-related gatherings can help foster relationships without the pressure of formal socializing where you cannot be yourself. This strategy ensures they remain connected while maintaining safe boundaries.

Setting Boundaries and Honoring Personal Space

A healthy social life doesn’t mean conforming to extroverted standards. Non-joiners must establish boundaries that respect their need for solitude. This may include declining unnecessary social events, setting limits on interactions, or communicating their preference for quiet spaces. By being transparent about their comfort levels, they can avoid forced engagements and focus on interactions that genuinely matter. Jesus was open to the public but religious leaders and people stayed at a safe distance from him. Ever noticed that?

Quality Over Quantity

Finally, prioritizing quality relationships over numerous social connections is essential. A non-joiner doesn’t need to engage with everyone but can build a small, trusted network of colleagues who understand and respect their social style. Cultivating deeper bonds with a few individuals ensures a fulfilling social life without unnecessary exhaustion.

By implementing thoughtful communication techniques, structured engagement, and respecting personal boundaries, non-joiners can build a social life that aligns with their nature while maintaining healthy professional relationships. It's not about changing who they are—it's about finding balance in their interactions. And there's only one way to learn healthy balance---spending quiet times alone with GOD who perfectly balances things in all creation. 

Quick Connections Make Us Lag in Relations

No doubt social media has changed us a lot, particularly our social life---how we connect and reach out to people and how we manage, retain or maintain connections. In fact, it has become our main way of communication, not just long distance communication. People use Messenger to talk to each other even if they are in the same house or room or bed. (Don't miss the link below to get your bonus). Strange.

I don't mean social media is strange. I mean, we have become strange creatures. Who's to blame? It's not social media, although most everyone blames it. We don't need to hold anyone or anything responsible. Our social life shift is bound to happen as long as technology is on the loose. We change technology and technology in turn changes the way we live and think. That's how God allows it. Quick connections are pivotal in these last days before Jesus returns.

We find ways to quickly connect but sadly, quick connections find ways to alter us---mostly alienating us from each other the more we can get quickly connected. Ironically absurd. One thing it does to us is grow more impatient. Our preference to the quick and instant robs us of patience and discipline which we now see as plain waste of time. We want what we want to happen happen now and fast. Let me repeat that:

We want what we want to happen 
happen now and fast. 

That hasty, restless behavior has cost us our relationships. We can't handle fast technology and quick connections. In fact, we tend to ruin every good thing that GOD has given us as a gift because of man's fallen condition, starting from Adam's fall in Eden which tragically severed his ties with GOD. And now we mess up our relationships because of our eagerness to get things going according to our time table. We want everything NOW. 

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We can't afford to wait any longer. It seems everyone and everything today is in a hurry. Lahat halos ay nagkakandarapa sa wala, kahit pinipilit nilang meron daw kabuluhan ang pagmamadali at pagkaka-abala nila. Everything moves and happens so fast, and it's not just on the Internet. Have you noticed how in slow, heavy traffic time moves so fast? It may be heavy but I don't think traffic is slow. Perhaps we think it's slow because we want everything faster and our hectic scheds plus our hopeless impatience have made everything around us seem too slow. Like how we deem growing up is slow but we often say kids "grow so fast!"

Anyway, fast paced everything has hit the economy, particularly the race between employment and cost of living, so that people are pushing and shoving to squeeze more pay out of their labor, by hook or by crook. They look for ways to earn fast with fast work. Again, social media comes into play. It brings labor and income radically much closer together, defying geographical limits, long distances, travel and immigration laws, because connections now happen at the mere click of a button. We can work for a total stranger in the US while in the Philipppines and make money even if we never meet our client in person.

Problem is, we have become used to connecting without relating. We deal with people we don't see or have not personally met. We give out our personal information to quickly access other people's offers on hundreds of selling platforms. We settle deals by talking to bots that screen us if we're really humans. We do this just to get fast access.

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You earn online and remotely as long as you are connected to a source giving the payment, and your only connection to the source are emailed instructions. You connect with the link, site, company, requirements and pay method more than with a human boss. And sadly somehow, we have become used to making the same relationships with people around us offline---remotely and impersonal. By the way, if you want a quick 😁 inside look into how online freelancing and virtual jobs can work for you real fast like right NOW, get my FREE report on it and start making money right after you learn. But do take care of your relationships.

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In conclusion, it's not social media's fault to make us dis-relate with people while getting connected with them. It's our own doing. Pretty much like sin. We keep blaming the devil when it's our will, decision and intention that did it, not the devil. He merely teased us with ads and hypes to follow his links, but he's powerless to force us to do anything against our will. 

While enjoying social media and getting more connected, let's also determine to get related. But beware of scammers who feign a relationship. They're everywhere.

Sickly Social Life

We may have read lots about healthy social life and so far, how healthy are we in that sense? I'd put it this way--what's a sickly social life like? Maybe you'd think that one socially robust is an outgoing personality that fits well in every situation or occasion, being the life of the party and superlatively impressive to people. Well, on contrary, a social life like that may be sickly.

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A personality that always seeks audience and attention in crowds is sickly. If you need to have people listening to you at all times so that you try your best to be impressive and interesting (always telling your stories and heroic acts) then you have serious insecurity issues which unfortunately is seen by many as self confidence, successful and likable. 

A healthy personality and social life is being comfortable in a quiet place in the backdrop and equally comfortable when called to step into the limelight. It would rather promote other people or talk about their successes than its own. Better yet, talk about ideas and be interested in those shared by others, not its own. A good listener has a healthy social life. A talker probably has a sickly one.

...he who restrains his lips is wise.

Proverbs 10.19

Fewer words, fewer mistakes. But this does not mean talking less keeps you immune to errors. Action still speaks louder than words. You may be quiet in gatherings but your reactions and gestures may be too loud. That too is a sickly social life. And talking of few words, people who say too much and monopolize conversations may also have a sickly social life (even sickly mind). Practice replying with concise and succinct words.