Sickly Social Life

We may have read lots about healthy social life and so far, how healthy are we in that sense? I'd put it this way--what's a sickly social life like? Maybe you'd think that one socially robust is an outgoing personality that fits well in every situation or occasion, being the life of the party and superlatively impressive to people. Well, on contrary, a social life like that may be sickly.

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A personality that always seeks audience and attention in crowds is sickly. If you need to have people listening to you at all times so that you try your best to be impressive and interesting (always telling your stories and heroic acts) then you have serious insecurity issues which unfortunately is seen by many as self confidence, successful and likable. 

A healthy personality and social life is being comfortable in a quiet place in the backdrop and equally comfortable when called to step into the limelight. It would rather promote other people or talk about their successes than its own. Better yet, talk about ideas and be interested in those shared by others, not its own. A good listener has a healthy social life. A talker probably has a sickly one.

...he who restrains his lips is wise.

Proverbs 10.19

Fewer words, fewer mistakes. But this does not mean talking less keeps you immune to errors. Action still speaks louder than words. You may be quiet in gatherings but your reactions and gestures may be too loud. That too is a sickly social life. And talking of few words, people who say too much and monopolize conversations may also have a sickly social life (even sickly mind). Practice replying with concise and succinct words.