You're Arrogant If You Don't Listen to Them

Again, unsolicited lecturers (those who force their advice on you, expecting you to follow it whether you like it or not) will insist that if you don't listen to their lectures and take their advice, you are arrogant. You don't have a teachable heart---as if they know how it is to have a teachable heart---because most of them detest listening or learning from other people, especially you. Their egos cannot take that. 

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They think their experience or education entitles them to be your lecturer or adviser. Worse, they believe they're smarter than you are and have all the right to tell you what to do. Why they believe they're smarter is a big mystery. The mere fact that you give unsolicited advice means you're not smart. You don't know the value of pearls, so how is that being smart? 

The bible says do not give pearls to pigs because they'd just trample on them. And I happen to be a pig when someone gives me pearls I don't want or don't need---because they're plastic pearls. No real value. You dive deep for real pearls, something unsolicited lecturers cannot do. Everything they offer is cheap, especially if they don't know what kind of pearls suit my situation. But if I go to you and ask you for advice, then your advice becomes precious pearls to me. Because I want it. I asked for it.

It's good to be rich in valuable experience and knowledge and be loaded with wise advices to help other people with, but that does not entitle you to lecture to just anybody you like---or you think is stupid and needs your wisdom---and especially not to one who doesn't ask for it. I seek advice from people I know is broadminded and can give me sound advices. 

I choose folks I'd listen to (of course, you listen to your parents and those whose authority you're under, like your boss on office matters). And when I say "sound advice" I mean that which comes from a humble and pure heart. I hate advices from the arrogant and conceited---which all unsolicited lecturers are. 

I listen to people with God's wisdom and who knows the Holy Spirit personally (or at least those who are humble and knowledgeable, though not yet a believer). If you know HIM personally, you'd have the character of Jesus, the mind of Christ. I'll listen to you. Watch Philippians 2.5:

5 In your relationships with one another, have the same mindset as Christ Jesus:

6 Who, being in very nature God,
did not consider equality with God something to be used to his own advantage;
7 rather, he made himself nothing
by taking the very nature of a servant,
being made in human likeness.
8 And being found in appearance as a man,
he humbled himself
by becoming obedient to death—
even death on a cross!