Magnifying Mindset to Make You See Things as They Really Are

You can be acknowledged as an intellectual, yet lack real mind health. You can be outgoing but have a meaningless social life. I've seen these reversals in my decades of human relations work in various capacities as PR Supervisor, sales and marketing director, advertising consultant and finally church pastor and counselor. Yeah, even as a Filipino martial arts instructor.

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Mind Health

Being intelligent may mean you have mind health, but not always. To me, healthy intelligence is the mental aptitude to balance things so you'd get an even and clear picture of things, better if with a selfless and mature disposition that seeks truth rather than be proven right or proven great. Problem is, intelligence is not always this healthy. It's often tarnished with pride. Real mind health happens when you have little to zero trace of the ego or self-centeredness. 

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Mind health involves the following:

Mental health includes our emotional, psychological, and social well-being. It affects how we think, feel, and act. It also helps determine how we handle stress, relate to others, and make choices. Mental Health CDC

It affects your whole you, not just your intellectual capacity, and helps to "handle" things well, which is maturity. I've seen lots of smart folks who are terribly self-centered, or egomaniac. Definitely, that isn't healthy and may lead to narcissism, which sees one's own opinions and feelings as the only correct and interesting things on earth. HelpGuide.Org says:

Narcissistic personality disorder involves a pattern of self-centered, arrogant thinking and behavior, a lack of empathy and consideration for other people, and an excessive need for admiration. Others often describe people with NPD as cocky, manipulative, selfish, patronizing, and demanding. Source

Healthy Social Life

A robust social life is not just when you're sociable, popular, talkative and friendly. It's really relating with people wisely and at the same time treating them well while staying low profile. You may be seen as sociable because you're around people all the time and the life of the party, but if you look down on them or get affected when they look down on you, you have a poor social life. 

Jesus patiently withstood the disparaging treatments he got from arrogant bashers but never allowed them to get the upper hand. He either gave them slighting remarks or completely ignored them, which made them feel slighted. He often ignored the rich and powerful but attended the poor and lowly. That's a healthy social life non-joiners enjoy. 

Oh, and it includes protecting and hemming-in your private space as well. 

On the other hand, you may have only a handful of friends, but if you treat them well, you have a healthy social life. It means you listen attentively and allow people to take center stage while you watch quietly in the background. To most people, sociable is when you're loud and taking charge of conversations to make sure you're in the limelight. But actually, you're somewhat sick in the mind if you crave the spotlight, if you asked me. 

I see it somewhat nearing HPD, or Histrionic Personality Disorder which is "marked by unstable emotions, a distorted self-image and an overwhelming desire to be noticed," Source. "Histrionic" means overly dramatic, another reason I hate drama, especially when some people go out of their way just to get attention and recognition by playing on emotions. "Sipsip" is probably the apt Tagalog term for it.

Non-joiners always take the backseat, just listening and observing, talking to a minimum and learning a lot about people in the process. They let others grab the glory, even if it should be theirs. They do not join the contest of who's the greatest but heartily keep what Jesus said about the least being the greatest. 

To be continued...