Would You Rather be Hot or Cool?

Sometimes being cool makes you "hot." 

It's a fad today to be "hot" and sexy, meaning folks of the opposite gender easily find you physically attractive. "Cool" on the other hand is always being calm and relaxed, taking things easy. The majority probably want to be both but nonjoiners would rather be nonchalant. There's a new in-word for you, nonchalant. Nonchalant?

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Aside from being casually calm and relaxed, nonchalance means no sign of interest or enthusiasm. It's just that hot or cool--or fads in general--are no big deal to you. You don't care what most people go for or are crazy about. You just remain yourself or what good lessons in life have transformed you to be. You don't go by fads or trends, you go by what your own personal progress is.

Naturals

Some folks are naturally attractive and they can't help it. Even with the simplest looks, modest clothes and fine mannerism people see them "hot." And even when irritated or pissed off, some people look "cool" to other people, not anymore because of their nice looks but the reason for their irritability and how they handle or display it. Jesus was pissed off by money changers at the temple but still many of us find him cool. 

Why do they still look cool?

First, their general good character certainly overwhelms the few times they display irritability or anger. Their good persons make people easily forget their faults and idiosyncrasies. Second, genuinely good people carry a different aura that gives hints about their inner goodness even if they seem moody outwardly. You just sense it even if they look temperamental. And people with this personality are sure to be nonchalant about fads and trends. They just act their natural selves no matter what.

Hot Versus Cool

Being merely "hot" usually don't last if you lack coolness. Overstress and getting too affected by life's ups and downs will soon take their toll on your "hot" features, part of the wear-and-tear of aging, because lacking coolness increases free radical activities that greatly subtracts from your youth and "hot" qualities. Although age, they say, sometimes makes you "hotter." 

Being cool on the other hand, prolongs your youthful looks and good health in general due to reduced free radical damage and keeps you "hot" if indeed you look "hot." By the way, don't ever pretend to look hot if you're not. Some people exert hard efforts to look "hot," to no avail. But being cool makes you accept your utter lack of "hot" looks and in that way become "hot" in other people's eyes eventually. Hot is in the eyes of the beholder. 

Also, don't feign or pretend being cool because truth is bound to surface on its own very soon. And when you're exposed it's going to be hard trying to retain being cool any longer, much less, being hot. Trying-hards and wanna-be's easily lose their appeal (if any) and earn people's disdain.

Nonchalant

Just being yourself and unmoved by whatever fad or trend or "in" thing is in the world is the best personality option. You just don't care. Your only pursuit is to develop into the person God wants you be. And to many folks, sometimes that looks cool and even "sexy." But you don't opt for nonchalance to look sexy but to find and be your own true self. 

Being naturally nonchalant, I was saving money and buying books in high school and college when others my age were busy trying to look hot and sexy and cool when attending parties and meeting girls. I didn't care about any of these and I certainly wasn't just being sour grapes. I honestly enjoyed not being part of any of that. 😄

Then fresh out of college, I looked for a business to do. Well, I tried employment as majority of my colleagues did, but I hated doing a job and looked for an easy, low-capital business to do--which set me apart from my contemporaries. To them, doing a job was the cool thing to do and making lots of money with that was the hot thing. But I hated all that hard work. I was nonchalant about their jobs and high salaries. I wanted something different. Often, being different like that develops a strong personality, especially if you really pursue it.