If All Users Did This, We'd All Be Happy on Facebook

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To avoid unnecessary misunderstandings, conflicts and hurts on Facebook with comments, here's what we should all understand.

Facebook is like real estate. The "land owner" (Facebook) allows us all to get a piece of land rent free. Each of us can put up anything we want on our property as long as it subscribes to FB policies. We may build a swimming pool, condo units, a townhouse, business, museum, or grocery store on it.

"What's On Your Mind?"

Notice how FB asks us, "What's on your mind?" on the box where we place our posts? This means, we're all free to express whatever's on our minds, no matter how weird or eerie or if people dislike it. So, being like real estate, we may put up a (use your imagination) TV station, casino, space station, circus, comedy show, stairway to heaven, mausoleum or cemetery on FB (as it were)--or all of the above. In short, anything your imagination can think of, as long as FB policies and Terms of Use are not violated.

And no one can question us or demand to close or put down our posts. Other users may comment ideas or opinions in support of our posts or inquiries for further info or clarification. But correct us or order us to do otherwise?

Or insult us?

Some users don't realize it, but they're like inspectors or Barangay tanods who go around the street block everyday to check each house in the neighborhood and see if everything is put up according to their standards and requirements. If not, they knock on the door and question or correct the home owner or demand that what he'd put up be torn down.

If say, they don't like the window grills you put up on your facade, they bang on your door and tell you they don't like or agree with your window grills and dictate what to put up instead. Or, they teach you how to improve your house even if you never asked for their opinions or worse, demand that you tear down the entire flower garden you worked hard for because they want a vegetable garden in your lot.

Proper Attitude

If I see a post I don't like, I ignore it. It's the guy's right to post what he likes or what he thinks is right. If I want to say something to the contrary, I don't comment on his post. I put it on my own wall. To each his own wall. If the one who posts is a friend and I want to advice him against his post, PM is the key. If it's negative (like criticism or an insult) PM is always the key. Then you may fight there all you want.

Mostly, I love posting jokes and light stuff to make friends relax and get amused. Life is short and you would want to spend it having fun and laughter, not debating and looking for fights. Sometimes I post my sentiments or dissension on an issue. It's my right to do so and no one can say I'm wrong. After all, FB's question is, "What's on your mind?" A lot of people are just aching to prove that they're smarter so they comment on your post to put you in a bad light--insult you--and show they're better.

Social sites are not for anti-socializing. It's where you make friends and see where you can fit in. Don't sneak in where you and your ideas suck and disrupt good vibes and conversation. If your ideas are to the contrary, put it on your own wall. Then stay contented with that. If no one likes it or comments, fine. After all, you're just one among millions of ordinary users on FB, not a superstar.

If we all act this way, everyone's going to be happy on Facebook.